The "perfect" family you provided for 20 years was real, but unfortunately, it came at the cost of your own identity. You gave your children two decades of love and support, which is a huge success, something to be so proud of, and that can never be taken from you.
Let that soak in.
I like to believe that one of many reasons why my family broke apart was because of the conditions placed on my identity, not solely by my decision to live authentically as a gay man. I did the best I could with the knowledge I had.
That so called perfection was at the cost of your true self and destined to end when the cost became too high. I have similar feelings about blowing up my wife’s perfect retirement plans after 35 years of marriage. It wasn’t fair to her but it wasn’t a choice. The ironic thing is that she was the one whose mistrust forced me to openly look at my true sexuality.
I know you are a responsible & honourable person. You've tried in your best effort to do what is right by you. In my view, I know it not easy, you should move on & move forward. Live & enjoy the moment each day, grow your new found family & friends & move forward to who you are now. Don't let the past be a baggage to weigh you down😊
You have more to live for now. When the time & opportunity for you to comes full circle with your previous life, then welcome the blessings.....meanwhile, embrace your current blessings, live & love🥰
Darlin’ it wasn’t Your “job” to be Perfect. I know all about Society’s Standards that we all learned about. You had every right to be You. It’s not a Cookie Cutter, everyone is the same, world.
I totally understand that You’d like your kids to at least understand. You’ve tried!
The "perfect" family you provided for 20 years was real, but unfortunately, it came at the cost of your own identity. You gave your children two decades of love and support, which is a huge success, something to be so proud of, and that can never be taken from you.
Let that soak in.
I like to believe that one of many reasons why my family broke apart was because of the conditions placed on my identity, not solely by my decision to live authentically as a gay man. I did the best I could with the knowledge I had.
That so called perfection was at the cost of your true self and destined to end when the cost became too high. I have similar feelings about blowing up my wife’s perfect retirement plans after 35 years of marriage. It wasn’t fair to her but it wasn’t a choice. The ironic thing is that she was the one whose mistrust forced me to openly look at my true sexuality.
Please know that the perfect family does not exist.
I know you are a responsible & honourable person. You've tried in your best effort to do what is right by you. In my view, I know it not easy, you should move on & move forward. Live & enjoy the moment each day, grow your new found family & friends & move forward to who you are now. Don't let the past be a baggage to weigh you down😊
You have more to live for now. When the time & opportunity for you to comes full circle with your previous life, then welcome the blessings.....meanwhile, embrace your current blessings, live & love🥰
Darlin’ it wasn’t Your “job” to be Perfect. I know all about Society’s Standards that we all learned about. You had every right to be You. It’s not a Cookie Cutter, everyone is the same, world.
I totally understand that You’d like your kids to at least understand. You’ve tried!
I know that situation Stings!!
Remember You’re Loved and appreciated by Many!!
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You are loved. Your family is here❤️